Learning how to feel

Me - Both sides of the Nature vs Nurture debate are clear about the what and why basis of personality. Prescriptions are basically maintenance strategies. There are few remedial learning options. Can one learn how to feel, attain the acceptable level of emotional response associated with generic felling - this is a real issue for me.
Arun - You can only learn, that would provoke thought, but whether you can put energy into it to make it an emotional response depends on your intensity of learning.Me - Intensity of learning and ability to put energy into thought....Elaborate.
Arun - The more effort you put in learning, more thought provoking it is. More of thought means more of thinker. The more you are, the more you feel.
Me - The issue is how to provoke thought. How to create interest. Effort needs a stimulus. Proactivity on all these fronts doesn't come naturally. Awareness of this exists but action?
Arun - There must be something which you always wanted to do, but couldn't. It may appear very trivial and foolish now. Start from there--may put you in a different frame of mind and bring back some enthu. Sit back and think what was your passion, and don't tell me there was none, coz thats impossible. Do it now!
Me - The stuff that I want to do seems to stem from what I wanna be. Gregarious, lively, curious, inquisitive. I don't have deep desires, unfulfilled wants, ambitions. Maybe a thought to be a caring, feeling, passionate about things person. I'd need to be somebody else!
I really dunno. Do it now you say. Nothing really comes to mind. Memories either.
Arun - First you have to come out of your cocoon and meet people.
Me - Conversation openers need to be "sense" triggered. Wanting to know - care and concern, curiosity. Wanting to share - the emotions you feel. If the emotional frame is dormant you are just a mute observer, reacting to what you're hearing. When there is no spontaneous thought articulated, you try to create some interest, but even that is linked to need, which is also rooted in emotion.
Interaction becomes forced and threatening. The approach more towards seeking acceptance and a dependency on inclusion. The chances of clicking, slim.
Arun - You can't start thinking with a conclusion. It becomes a dead end.
Me - Conclusions are based on reflection and learning from experience. New thought requires new experience and new motivation. When the latter is innate, it helps. Importing it is the prob.