Rekha - I always try to build a better bond....doesn't work well each time I guess.....I respect your choice.
Me - Choices are individual. They need to be understood first and then accepted or disagreed with. Respecting choice is nothing but a fait accompli...A status quo position. I appreciate your mind set, but that's who you are. My world view is very different and I am coming to realise that attempts at mutuality only grate because of basic divergence.
All that means is we accept who we are and build on the broad brush commonalities. Its the vertical slices exploring belief systems that cause jarring. So just avoid those.