Most relationships tend to get defined by the expectations of behavior ascribed to them. EQ elements like care, concern, sharing etc have behavior templates prescribed, which one seeks or desires as experience. All based on the articulation of someone else's experience, that has become the generic dictionary definition of these terms.
Our expectancies, though individual, are generic and, quite apart from one's own experience frame...both in context and content. Though the essence appears similar and relevant. Take any of one's senses. Feel, sight, sound et al... We understand their meaning generically but.. their true import is realised only from first hand personal experience. Meaning is derived from one's experienced reality.
You now know and once you Know...thats reality. No more expectancy. What we don't experience, for whatever reason, is however evaluated against the generic norm defined...not against what is Known. Foe all purposes an illusion that one chases, till one actually experiences.
By nature, generic templates are static and do not factor in the experiences of the individual or the context. Wish frames are based on this illusion that continually perpetuates a cycle of expectancy, that is the death knell of any healthy relationship..
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