Moms will always tell you how to do it...

Parental concern is boundary-less. It seems to encroach on private spaces which are held taboo, primarily in the friendship space.
You may not like it but remember, that whatever is done is for what is perceived to be in YOUR best interest. Moms will always tell you how to do it, no matter what.
If that embarrasses you, understand, coz she is concerned about saving you from perceived hurt or embarrassment and, doing whats in your best interest, from a Mom's viewpoint.The generation gap exists because theres lack of mutuality on whats best!
e experienced the gen gap too. More stringently. "You wanna keep seeing him then, marry him". We had to tell our share of lies to spend time together. The resultant life is also attributed to not having listened to Ma. Marrying against her wishes. That's the mindset behind the care and concern. Her hindsight steering your life. Understand and accept there's nothing you can do to change the mindset. But once you know, that's the norm and its so much easier to adapt without hassling yourself about the Whys and Wherefores and...keeping your peace.