The Why - For What mantra to peace of mind

Me - One needs to know Why one is doing What one is doing. Keep asking Why to each answer you come up with, and honestly answer. When there are no more Whys that crop up....You Know Why...Now for each intent that crops up, ask For What. And you wil gradually find middle ground...from which the paths less travelled are more accessible.
The Why - for What mantra to peace of mind.
Arun - I think it all ultimately boils down to pursuit of pleasure or escape from pain.
Me - In other words either become a sybarite or a zombie? All sense, no sensibility??

Pleasure and pain are the resultant of the ability or, inability to do, what one wants to. The degree of pleasure and pain, a factor of how strongly one wants what one wants. The life position one settles into reflects the worth one attaches to what one wants.
Abdication from an ideal can be a conscious and worthy compromise or...a reflection of futility belief!
Arun - Either you accept What Is, or keep hankering after What Should be. Both have their share of pleasure and pain.
Me - What Is...was meant to be. Shaped largely by your attempts to create What Should be, as per you, as What Is. The black and white clarity of your Should bes fuels a need to distill the grays of the wish frames of other dependent variables that make up What Is. The pleasure and pain flow from these efforts.
Acceptance is but the realisation of ones ability to juxtapose ones black and white clarity on the grey wish frame that seems to pervade What Is. If peace of mind is but a sensory state, then What Should be is just a lighter shade of pale of What Is!

Arun - Coming to terms with What Is...Realisation or failure?
Me - An acceptance that its just this actually. Realisation or failure is in the eyes of the beholder...A mind game.

Me - If I could....I would.
But I can't....so I wont.
When I can...I will.
Till then....I'll take a chill pill.
Wishful thought or compromise?
Realisation or failure?..or
Resilience
Arun - Sounds more like a laid back and defeatist attitude to me.
Me -
Consider
Happenings
Intellectually
Loath
Lovingly

Patiently
Interpreting
Lifes
Lessons

If you find that defeatist and laid back, then your learning curve has plateaued!
Arun - You may be right. What I am learning now is that all that I have learned till now doesn't work in the perceived world in which we live. The perceived reality is what forces one to set priorities. If we set them by the so called Real Reality, one is trying to steer life by armchair philosophy. I cannot live in this world setting the parameters according to the Other world.
Me -What you have learnt till now was with the objective of showing you that the perceived world is just that...a perception. The lessons are rooted in the experiences from/of this perceived reality.
No one forces one to set priorities. It's usually informed choice. If we set them based on perceptions, one is accepting that one's learning is nothing but armchair philosophy. Survival of the fittest applies to the evolutionary process of learning too. The lessons are meant to help you Adapt, Grow, Evolve out of this habitat to a new reality.....Or perish
Arun - I think I'm on the way to perishing
Me - The monk drinking on the street metaphor works both ways. So have a blast on your way out. You have nothing to loose but your perceptions!